I'm breaking all the rules with this one
... and I'm asking for your help, in a weird way...
Today I’m talking about why I’m selling my beloved home and how you might be able to help me do just that (there’s something in it for you if you can!)
Hello you,
I know what I should be doing right now; reflecting on the year, setting intentions, blah, blah, blah. No, I’m just not doing it this year. Often I do, yes, I’ve grown to love the downtime of Yule in the northern hemisphere, to cosy up and do all the things, to share workbooks and prompts and invitations to join me… but this year I’ve just been so unwell since mid-December and I’m exhausted, plus my head is too full, partly of ear infection and partly of… well, I’ll tell you…
I’ll back up a bit, to 10 years ago when I had just the hint of an inkling that I might be about to start out on a new all-consuming adventure. I was in a brand new relationship, I was on crutches after a salsa-related knee operation, and I’d just found the perfect place to build my dream house.
Yes, build my dream house. No, I’ve never done it before. Yes, I loved it and yes, I will do it again, for sure!
Here’s the weird thing… I’ve spent many a year walking side by side with self-doubt and I’ve turned away from many exciting opportunities, holding myself back, never quite realising my potential. BUT when it came to this question…
Do you want to run a building site for two years and build a ‘Grand Designs’ style home?
… YES! I never hesitated for a moment. I just knew I could do it. The self-doubt was nowhere to be found. I’ve done enough great home renovations and extensions to feel really comfortable in my abilities.
And by the way, I believe we all, no matter how confident or otherwise we feel generally, have things that we just know we can do. And, I also believe we get to own those things, shout about them, enjoy them. Even if they’re not the things that bring in the money. Maybe especially then. Our value to the world comes from what we find effortless, what we create, the conversations we have, the humans we raise, how we make people feel. And yes ok, sometimes it comes from our work too. But don’t get caught up in the myth that all your value comes from the day job, because each one of us is way more than that.
And I know that leaning into all of this ⬆️ is one of the best ways we can build confidence in other areas too. Own what you’re good at.
Own what you’re good at…
Talking about owning what we’re good at 😘 let me geek-out on human design just for a moment, so you can see where all this fits into my chart…
As a sacral generator I’m designed to have a strong YES pulling me through life, project by project, with no real long-term vision. This is the most trusting version ever of following-the-breadcrumbs, and it’s a beautiful thing to know about myself.
In my personality earth I have the gate 60, this means that I ground my brightest gifts into reality by applying boundaries and structure, to understand what is possible and what isn’t, to see clearly which limitations hinder and which create the environment for growth and magic ✨
In my design sun I have the gate 3, this calls me to stay healthy by cycling through chaos to order and back again, with the joyful energy of a child repeatedly inventing and destroying lego creations, and it’s all about change, new fresh energy
These two gates form a channel (3-60) which is one of my ever-present energies, the cyclical energy of transformation, of rule-breaking, pulling me towards unusual tasks or projects that bring change to the world. It’s an energy that comes in a pulse.. it’s very obvious when it’s on! But when it’s off… it’s off, leaving a distinctly melancholic vibe in its place.
Of course, if I didn’t know about my design, I’d still be called to home building and reno’s just like I always have… but seeing the way in which it’s part of me, gives it a whole new dimension. I’m meant to be doing this. I trust the sacral yes’s. I dive into chaos because it’s good for me. And when the pulse is off, I don’t panic, I don’t confuse it with depression (because, dear god, it feels like it at times) I simply wait, rest where I can and know the cycle will come back around.
The cycles of change…
And so, 10 years ago, when that opportunity to build came around, along with my sacral YES and that transformative 3-60 channel switched ON, I dived right into it all. Into planning, designing and building. Alongside meadow restoration, tree planting, new hedgerows and re-homing countless ex-battery hens.
I was living the dream. And riding the waves of the on/off pulse.
One of the waves had me giving up my job and training as a coach, building up my business. (Maybe you know too that I didn’t have the same level of confidence as a business owner as home builder? I’m still working on that one!)
After a lull (channel off) another wave nudged me to build an Airbnb near our home and create a whole new business to sit alongside my coaching work.
But now… well, those cycles of change…
… are changing again…
For the last year or so I’ve known that another big pulse is coming. An upheaval, a leap into chaos. I’ve been resisting it because well, I’m happy here. It took a lot of building and my heart and soul went into creating this family home.
Only… it’s time for another adventure.
It’s going to break my heart wide open.
And catapult me into another cycle of brilliant, exciting, exhilerating growth.
I can’t bear the thought of it. And I can’t wait to get started.
And the big question… can you help me?
Maybe this is the weirdest thing to hit your inbox so far this decade, maybe not.
You see, I have a very strong belief that “I don’t need to use estate agents” because so far, in all my house moves, I haven’t. Each time I’ve been ready to sell, the buyer has just appeared. (you already know it’s in my design, this is the line 4 bringing me all good things through my beautiful connections = you)
And I would love to make that happen again. I just know that the buyer for this special family home is in my world already (or yours) just waiting for the nudge to say yes.
Let me share a little more…
Location: near Clitheroe, NW England - quite rural, but just a 10 minute drive from town, with school buses passing the door
Open plan contemporary design, with (according to numerous visitors) a very cosy homely feel, 5 bedrooms and basement cinema & gym, plus all the mod-cons you’d expect
7 acres of meadow, with stable (option to sell these separately)
Thriving Airbnb business set privately behind the house (separate access)
💰 And a cash bonus for the person who connects me to a successful buyer!
If this sounds interesting, please do reply to this email to ask me for more information - I’ve got all the details ready to share with you if have an inkling that you, or someone you know, is ready for their next adventure :)
A few thinking prompts…
Maybe this has got you thinking about your own patterns and tendencies…
💫 what have you always been naturally good at, or drawn to?
💫 what are you ready to release now that you’ve known for a while?
💫 what parts of you do you always want to change? (spoiler, these are likely to be the parts you need to lean into and really own!)
Lastly… new year / new you?
NO! Please don’t! You are amazing just as you are. Be more you. Here’s my permission slip for you to do just that, starting today ❤️
Sending love and warmth,
Sarah xx
PS. Don’t forget to press reply and ask me about this lovely place 🏡
PPS. If you’re new here and you’re wondering what I normally talk about, it’s mostly building confidence, realising your brilliant potential and the magic of human design, so stick around for lots more of that coming soon!
But why???!!! It’s gorgeous…