what rules are you ready to break?

on how your aura has a job description, why it’s one of my favourite parts of the human design chart, and what mine is… plus, of course, how to find yours

Mar 09, 2025

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For as long as I can remember I’ve had a thing about rules. A weird flip-flop between breaking them and keeping them.

Rebellion & pendantic-ness.

I always had a knack for pointing out the pointless rules...

Why wasn’t it ok to have my ears pierced at high school when it wouldn’t make a difference to my learning? Why did teachers get to tell us when we could go to the toilet? Why do girls have to wear skirts & makeup?

But refusing to break others...

Those were the rules I could just tell were somehow essential, if I wanted to live in a decent, peaceful-ish way.

Equality, manners, waiting in line. The non-negotiable of recycling everything possible.

And I loved the rebellious side of me and quietly rolled my eyes at the ‘boring’ side.

When I was on retreat in Bali last year we were given a task to sit still and quiet for an hour. No meditating, no breathwork, none of the usual tools we might turn to with 60 minutes of nothing ahead.

Afterwards we were invited to share what had come up. As I described my experience, basically an internal debate about the ‘rules’ of this game and why I’d let someone else tell me I couldn’t move to get a drink of water despite me being a grown-ass adult, I started to laugh.

Ha! Here it is again, the rules thing, only now I know exactly where this is coming from, my design… as always! This is my Cross of Laws, just doing its thing. Like it has been all my life.

What am I talking about?

So, in the world of human design you’ll find something called the Incarnation Cross. There are 112 in total and you’ll find yours just here in your free chart.

The King of Swords knows which rules to uphold and which to break too.

What is the Incarnation Cross?

It’s my favourite part of the chart in a lot of ways, and it’s described - fabulously I think - as the job description of your aura. It’s what you bring to the world, when you’re aligned and following your strategy and authority. And although you might think of it as your purpose, often it’s not something you even notice happening. Because it’s not for you, it’s for the people around you; the impact might be felt in the smallest interaction with a stranger, or it could be something bold and obvious…

Your Cross is made up of the 4 biggest energies in your chart, your two sun gates and your two earth gates, and how their themes combine.

Mostly, it’s not something you do, it’s something you BE.

Is it making sense yet? Maybe not! Let me bring mine to life for you…

My Cross of Laws is made up of:

Gate 56 (my personality sun gate) which pulls me toward experiences that enrich, and away from pointless distractions
Gate 60 (my personality earth gate) which brings a healthy dose of common sense and realistic boundaries, shedding a life trapped in red tape or out-dated structures
Gate 3 (my design sun gate) which invites play and improvisation over chaotic survival mentality
and Gate 50 (my design earth gate) a mothering archetype, which encourages me towards harmony in life and body, and away from irresponsible, fearful systems.

And together these energies can’t help but challenge limitations that have no real purpose, and create new and better ways of working. This Cross knows which rules we need to keep in place and which need breaking, and it goes about it gently so we’re not thrown into anarchy overnight!

How does it actually work, and how can you use it?

It works, like the rest of human design, through your body, so there’s no point in letting your mind get in the way, trying hard to DO your Cross. It’s about trusting your body, trusting your inner authority, following the breadcrumbs (if you’re a generator type, or the invitations if you’re a projector) and letting go of attachment to old stories, old patterns and habits.

And - this is why it’s my favourite bit - the very best thing about knowing your Cross, is that even though you don’t have to DO anything, it really is the very best permission slip to actually BE more of you. To lean in, and really KNOW that you’re meant to be bringing this exact energy to the world.

Lastly, I want you to know that the people passing through your world need your particular flavour of Cross in that moment. Your aura will be asking something of them, nudging them to think in a new way.

To find out what your aura is asking, treat yourself to a Human Design Unpack, or coaching bundle, with me before I finally get around to putting my prices up!